Older ladies are divine like wine

Donnalou and Charni from Belly Dance Lessons Online agree that "older ladies are divine"!

Donnalou and Charni from Belly Dance Lessons Online agree that “older ladies are divine”!

As my 40th birthday approaches, I feel very young. Yes, I know I have blogged about my grey hairs, but that has nothing to do with age. As a girl, I thought 40 was ancient. I thought I would have it all figured out, be sage and wise, I don’t think I considered “fun”. The truth is, I am in better shape and fitter now than when I was in my 20’s, (though I may weigh a few kilos more!) plus I love to be fun. I like being silly with my kids at a park, I like bouncing on the trampoline or yelling “race you to that tree!” (Then slowing my steps so the 5-year-old doesn’t get left behind!).

These older ladies show that you don't have to be young to be divine in a swimsuit!

These older ladies show that you don’t have to be young to be divine in a swimsuit!

Well, I have found a woman after my heart: Donnalou Stevens has written a wonderful song about older ladies being divine. It’s no wonder this video has gone viral as she and her friends display a great sense of fun as they joyfully horse around to this song. “My tummy ain’t tucked or liposucked, it’s a little poochy but it’s still hoochie coochie,” Stevens croons. “And if that’s the reason that you don’t love me, then maybe it’s not love.”

I have found this to be true as well when watching a belly dance performance. The mature ladies give a certain extra to their performance which comes from experience, knowledge and knowing who you are. I want to be this divine as I head into my “mid” years. Go Donnalou I’ll be keeping an eye out for you!

You run like a girl? Good for you!

Wonder Woman knew how to punch, run and kick like a girl!

Wonder Woman knew how to punch, run and kick like a girl!

I am the first to admit that I am not the most sporty of people. Throw a ball my way and I’m more likely to duck than catch it. I am not a fan of violence, so I wouldn’t know how to throw a punch. Yet, when I think about it, I took self-defence classes as a teenager, and it got me out of a potentially dangerous situation of assault, leading to the successful conviction of someone who would have been likely to repeat an attack on someone who looked vulnerable. So just because I don’t condone violence, doesn’t mean I will passively accept it.

I came across a video done by “Always”, a feminine hygiene company (why do they always have the good ones?) and it got me thinking. The topic is #likeagirl

I loved this idea. Because, yes, doing something “like a girl” normally has negative connotations. Why? I love how the young girls were the ones who didn’t buy into the social expectation, and how the older women, once they realised, were able to change their behaviour to reflect reality. My favourite? How the boy said he wasn’t talking about his sister, he was talking about girls, and the look on his face when he realised it.

Go on - run like a girl! I dare you!

Go on – run like a girl! I dare you!

Like Santa for your vagina!

Charni would like to have celebrated her first period!

Charni would like to have celebrated her first period!

I have often lamented that I didn’t find belly dance until I was at the end of my teens rather than the beginning. Hips widening, and those lovely little cherrry-sized lumps that bulge behind your nipples are not the only signs of womanhood. As a woman, we think back all misty eyed to that very momentous occasion in a young girl’s life, when she becomes a woman. Yes, that very special moment that says she has flowered, can be looked back upon fondly….. NOT! I don’t know about you, but my “special” moment happened on holidays, with extended family, at my Grandparent’s place on the Gold Coast. And I discovered the onset of this momentous occasion at…Dreamworld! I spent the whole day trying to get my Mum to one side to tell her, and kept visiting the toilets every hour to see if the toilet paper pad was holding up. I ended up telling her when we got back. It was not a moment of celebration. She was annoyed as she only had tampons, so had to go around all the aunts and cousins asking if anyone had supplies. Just a tad embarrassing for a 12-year-old. I had read books (one of which was “Are you there, God? It’s me, Margaret” by Judy Blume) and pamphlets, but nothing prepared me for this public “coming out” of my womanhood!! Aaarrgh!

How was it for you?

Well I have just discovered the most marvellous, empowering and hilarious videos made by a company called HelloFlo. I introduce you the “Camp Gyno” who gets her Red Badge of Courage!

Classic!! THis had me in stitches! “LIke Santa for your vagina”!!!!

Here’s another funny video from HelloFlo about what happens if you jump the gun and announce the event too soon…

Well my point is, that it doesn’t need to be something dreaded or embarrassed about. It happens, so let’s find the fun and embrace these girls who are now joining the “Red Sisters” Club.

 

An alien in the belly

Charni did workshops with Ava and her belly this year

Charni did workshops with Ava and her belly this year

I recently had the opportunity to do two workshops with the gorgeous Ava Fleming from Arizona, and she talked about how when she performs it is like watching an alien move around her belly. The funny thing is, just last year I had done a couple of workshops with another US belly dancer, Princess Farhana who did a whole workshop on different tummy techniques including having an alien in the belly. I wonder if it is something about the US?

Charni did a tummy bellydance workshop with Princess Farhana in 2013

Charni did a tummy bellydance workshop with Princess Farhana in 2013

 

 

 

Their styles are quite different, though they sharedsome other similarities (besides the tummy thing), and I got a lot out of both. I like to take workshops with visiting dancers, as there is so much to learn about this wonderful dance form, and it is ever evolving. I can see myself at 80, still dancing, and wondering if I am ever going to learn it all!